We humans love to live inside our minds. We ruminate, stress, overthink, & expand knowledge there. Living in our minds is alluring as we feel like we hold the reigns of control over our life. The thing is, the mind likes to play tricks on us, turning up the volume on the inner critic, while ruminating on negative thoughts that distort reality & keeps us from seeing things as they really are. This can lead to feeling stressed, anxious, & even depressed.
Sometimes, we focus so much on our thoughts that we forget about the body-mind connection. This can make us push down & ignore uncomfortable sensations & warnings our bodies are trying to show us: to slow down, to relax, to laugh, to breathe.
But in having this sense of “complete control” are you really relishing life? Why not enjoy our bodies more?
In changing frequencies & intentionally tuning into your body, you can develop a stronger sense of self, comprehend your emotions & even understand your character & values more. In connecting to your body, you allow your emotions & feelings to surface genuinely.
Get Back to Your Body
It’s possible to increase the connection between the body & the mind & ground yourself by reconnecting to the physical world. You can become increasingly present, more engaged, & aware in the moment by strengthening the connection between your five senses & your mind.
It takes courage to really listen to your body. It takes even more courage to take action & give it what it is asking for. There’s no “one size fits all” approach to getting out of your mind, but here are some examples before I get into how this relates to boudoir photography:
- Speak to your body. Your body is your earthly home, not a robot. Connect with it by asking things like: how does my body feel? What does the ground feel like? What do my clothes feel like? Am I feeling something that is uncomfortable? This will help you feel grounded & in unison.
- Move your body. Focus on joyful movement that make you excited, not something that feels like a chore. Dance, walk, hike, box, swim.
- Smell your favorite smells.
- Run your hands through a variety of textures.
- Recite a phrase, poetry, or song from memory.
- Touch cold water or an ice cube.
- Visualize a place that sparks joy.
- Play with an animal.
- Indulge in a warm bath or shower.
- Give yourself a soothing massage or go get one.
- Hug yourself or a loved one.
- Take incredibly deep breaths.
- Stand up & stretch.
Over time, you’ll be able to tap into soothing ways to move away from your consuming thoughts, gently ground yourself, & relax into the safety of your own body.
How to Get Out of Your Head & Into Your Body for Your Boudoir Shoot
Soooo how does this relate to boudoir photography?! SO much!
Pre-shoot jitters are completely normal & expected. What we don’t want, however, is for these nerves to turn into overthinking & panic that holds you back.
If in the shoot your mind starts wandering & telling you things like, “Do I look stupid?” or, “I feel silly/awkward,” or “Am I trying too hard?” during your shoot: your mind lying to you.
I’ve learned a wide range of embodiment practices that I implore in every single shoot that supports everyone in swapping their overthinking for grounding in the present moment, properly feeling their body, emotions & finally, having their boudoir photoshoot experience.
Every shoot at Embodied Art Boudoir starts with a pre-shoot meditation, called the Body Peace Meditation. I lead it, setting the intention towards relaxation, comfort & concentration. The guided meditation focuses on body neutrality, sending positive energy & happiness to your body with ZERO pressure to ever say you “love” any part of your body. I will meet you where ever you are on your always-evolving body journey.
Throughout the photo shoot, I am not only your hype woman slash professional poser, but I’ll help you embody your body. I will gently, even a little subconsciously, redirect energy back to breathing, & physical sensations through running hands over skin, lace, velvet, satin, cotton—all the different textures, to invite presence back.
I also encourage everyone to set an intention prior their shoot. You can learn more on how to do that here: How To Set A Positive Intention For Your Boudoir Session. This isn’t to scare you or make you do homework. It’s the opposite really, it’s to get the MOST out of your shoot.
Setting an tangible intention helps to remind your mind to remain present & to focus on the outcome you are after. Some examples of intentions you can set for your boudoir shoot include:
- I intend to embrace my body for all its perfect imperfections
- I intend to welcome this photoshoot with positivity & happiness
- I intend to let go of my fears
While I will never ask you to share your intentions with me, if you want to share, amazing. Regardless, I will remind you throughout your session to consider your intention & why you stepped in the door in the first place. I will gently remind you to envision this & hone in on it. This will help you stay present rather than worrying about any intrusive thoughts trying to poke their way in.
Sometimes, when you’re not in your body & not in the moment, your mind turns to people pleasing, or performing. As if you have to please me or perform for me & be a “perfect model.” This is not about me! This is YOUR shoot. The only thing you have to do is be yourself & show off all sides of your personality.
If you’re still experiencing nervous doubts or questioning how you look, I regularly show you images in real time on the back of my camera. It’s a pretty exciting moment as I love watching my clients eyes pop & jaws open as they stare from me to the camera to me again, saying “Holy shit, that’s ME?!” Yes of course it is! You are a masterpiece.
All We Have Is Now
I will leave you with this quote:
“The present moment is all you ever have. There is never a time when your life is not ‘this moment’.”Eckhart Tolle.
The transformation that happens when you step out your head & into your body is magic. To truly experience your boudoir photo shoot, & life itself, is to feel & listen to your body & what it amplifies. When your mind & body are in harmony, you are in control.
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